Modern mamas seem to me to be at a disadvantage compared to our more historic counterparts. I know this isn't a new discussion, but it's fairly new one to me.
That old saying (from where ever it's from) "It takes a village" and the sentiment behind it are so lost in this culture. Moms who, by choice or circumstance, are home with their kids can be so isolated and overworked. For me, at least - and for a lot of us I'm guessing - we feel the pressure to be "on the job" 24/7 while our spouses/partners/babydaddies go to their jobs and come home and get to feel that "off the clock" relief. What I do for the eight hours J is at his job is HARD WORK. Taking care of a little one while simutaneously trying to make certain that there is edible food in the house, a clean shirt to put on, and a clear walking path to the couch can be really draining.
Add to all of that the extra drain on time and energy that goes with breastfeeding, cloth diapering, babyfood making, and attachment parenting (and ALL that goes with AP), and I feel exhausted by the time I'm no longer the only adult in the house. I'm not complaining, I just think choosing to put in the extra effort to do what I feel is the absolute best for my kid deserves a little acknowledgement. Not from society at large, as I'm aware that most of them either look down on or just plain don't "get" why I parent the way I do. Certainly coming from J it would mean a lot, but even that's not what I'm talking about.
I would love to feel understood and heard by other women in my situation. The first year of parenthood seems to be such a singular experience, and I think we need more ways for like-minded people going through it to share time and experience together. think that it's something we as mothers deserve and as women strong enough to parent conscientiously should be pushing for. Well, that's all for today. Have a good one y'all!
That old saying (from where ever it's from) "It takes a village" and the sentiment behind it are so lost in this culture. Moms who, by choice or circumstance, are home with their kids can be so isolated and overworked. For me, at least - and for a lot of us I'm guessing - we feel the pressure to be "on the job" 24/7 while our spouses/partners/babydaddies go to their jobs and come home and get to feel that "off the clock" relief. What I do for the eight hours J is at his job is HARD WORK. Taking care of a little one while simutaneously trying to make certain that there is edible food in the house, a clean shirt to put on, and a clear walking path to the couch can be really draining.
Add to all of that the extra drain on time and energy that goes with breastfeeding, cloth diapering, babyfood making, and attachment parenting (and ALL that goes with AP), and I feel exhausted by the time I'm no longer the only adult in the house. I'm not complaining, I just think choosing to put in the extra effort to do what I feel is the absolute best for my kid deserves a little acknowledgement. Not from society at large, as I'm aware that most of them either look down on or just plain don't "get" why I parent the way I do. Certainly coming from J it would mean a lot, but even that's not what I'm talking about.
I would love to feel understood and heard by other women in my situation. The first year of parenthood seems to be such a singular experience, and I think we need more ways for like-minded people going through it to share time and experience together. think that it's something we as mothers deserve and as women strong enough to parent conscientiously should be pushing for. Well, that's all for today. Have a good one y'all!